Alice Leroy
Dr. Philip is a cognitive behavioral therapist who has helped thousands of people change their lives. He’s a master at changing the way you look at things from being negative to positive and has developed a system based on CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) that he calls The Positive Mindset. In this article, I’ll walk you through some of Dr. Sobash’s tips for changing your perspective and living a better life with more positivity!
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
A great tool that I use in my practice is to teach people how to stop comparing themselves to others. Comparisons are a double-edged sword: they can be helpful, but more often than not they lead us into an unhealthy mindset. It’s important to learn how to avoid this trap.
The first step in avoiding comparison is knowing why you should avoid it. This requires self-awareness about your motivation for doing so and understanding why you might want to compare yourself with others:
- To feel better about yourself by making your life seem “easier” than theirs (for example, if someone else has lost weight and you haven’t).
- To make other people feel bad about themselves (for example, if someone else has gained weight and you haven’t).
Make A List Of What You Want Out Of Your Life
One of the most powerful tips of Dr. Philip Sobash you can use to improve your mindsetis a list. Specifically, a list of desires and goals. Write down all the things that are important to you, whether they are big or small. You could write a list of things that are currently working in your life, as well as what isn’t working.
Don’t Beat Yourself Up For Making Mistakes
Mistakes are a natural part of life. No one is perfect, but beating yourself up for making a mistake can keep you from learning and growing. Instead of getting down on yourself when something goes wrong, focus on the lesson you learned, even if it’s just a small realization about how to improve your process next time around.
Be Kind To Yourself And Others
To have a more positive mindset, you must practice kindness. Kindness is contagious, so when you are kind to others, it will eventually lead to being kinder to yourself as well. Kindness helps you feel good about yourself by making others feel good about themselves. This can also help build relationships with others because kindness invites people into our lives who want to be there!
Surround Yourself with Positivity
- This is easier said than done, but surrounding yourself with people who are positive will help you to have a more positive outlook on life.
- Avoid negative people. The opposite of this is not necessarily true; that is, you should not surround yourself only with people who are negative and refuse to let any positive people into your life.
- Be careful about who you let into your life and avoid situations that make you feel bad or nervous about being around other people (i.e., in social situations).
